Dating a married mexican man
And, really, it roots deeper than my parents, my grandparents, and their parents before them.Racial tension between Mexicans and blacks, especially on the west coast and in some parts of the south, is tied to an ugly history.As far as dating, I've encountered men who've thought of me as the Mexican woman that is there only to serve, speaks Spanish in bed, or has a connect to an inner drug cartel member.And those misconceptions were directed at me from men of all shades.Once, in 2011, my then-boyfriend and I left a photo of us, taken at an event, at a bodega by accident.
When it's more than one black guy I've had bad luck with, others—in this case my parents—see a pattern.
The curse is that those factors establish tradition.
I've experienced my share of racism and have had racial slurs thrown in my direction. I've overheard conversations about me where people spewed hateful words because they didn't think I knew English.
Thirteen years of dating boys outside my race and it took sitting down to write this essay to have the first, real conversation with my parents about interracial dating.
I used to say I didn't have a type, but if we go off consistency, I do.